In all honesty though, Jason and I couldn’t be more opposite at times. Sure we share a lot of the same values, goals and ideas but in a lot of ways, we are very opposite. I tend to
overthink react fast to situations and have a constant sense of urgency (sometimes this comes back to kick me in the keister) to get things done. Jason, on the other hand, well….doesn’t. He is a very laid back and chill kind of guy and that usually is one of my most favorite things about him.
When Jason and I met, we both were pretty independent people. He had a roommate and I had just moved in with my little sister after living on my own for four or so years. I was happy to date a guy who knew how to feed himself, pay his own bills and do laundry. In some ways, I felt like I had won the boyfriend lotto!
J and I moved in together a few months after we got engaged and had a lot of wedding planning to do. I was also still in school, so had plenty of distractions. Now that the honeymoon is literally over, where do two “slightly” stubborn people who know how to take care of themselves go from here?
I am really wanting us to combine our paychecks/bank accounts and make more decisions together as a married couple. Nowadays obviously, most couples have already lived on their own and know how to take care of themselves and their own life, so does it really matter? But while I feel like we have to merge everything, Jason has the mentality, if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it…
I know every couple is different but for me, I feel like combining our finances will make both of us more accountable with our spending (I may have a slight addiction to all things coffee and Coach) and also help us to set more financial goals together.
So to all you married folk out there, what did you do once you said, “I do”?