I met Jason ten years ago (last week). It’s so crazy to me that we met that long ago.
I’m sure to my older friends, ten years it’s nothing, but to me, it’s a longgggg time.
I was twenty-three, and felt like I knew it all. I moved out on my own a month after high school graduation, and had been supporting myself, and going to school for five years. Actually, at the time I met Jason, my younger sister was living with me. But I am the older sister, so naturally (I thought) I knew it all.
But life had so much more to show me, and it put someone like Jason in my path – someone who is generally a patient guy. Patience is something I still have to work hard at, even now.
The night we met was a fun one. I went out to happy hour for a girlfriend’s birthday. I hardly ever went anywhere without another friend, but went alone this night. I knew three people, and there was a guy sitting in the only chair next to them. Said guy got up to play a game of Ms. Pac-Man, and I stole his seat. I didn’t know him, and I didn’t think much about it, but I took his seat to be closer to my friends.
This guy came back, and I said, “I think I took your seat?” and he said he did not. I thought he was weird. Then he bought a round of jaegar bombs for the group, and we started taking all night. I had never clicked so quickly with someone, but I wasn’t thinking of him that way.
I was twenty-three, and mayyyybe drank a little more than I should have. I let this guy’s best friend drive my car to get me home. I would never do that now, and I don’t recommend it, but obviously everything turned out okay. Jason, my Ms. Pac-Man playing, Jaegar Bomb buying, hockey fanatic guy.
As we get older together, I become more reminiscent of our life. Jason does not (LOL). He has always been a more, ‘in the moment’ kind of person, and I am either looking ahead, or looking back. In so many ways, we could not be more different, but I think that is why we honestly work so well.
2017 has been an odd year for us. It’s been a more tough one for me too, if I am being honest. The last 4+ years have been about Jason in law school. It’s been so much of our lives, and pretty much 75% of our marriage has been devoted to this. In a lot of ways, I’m grateful Jason went to law school after we were married; I had to find my own interests again, and it led me to this blog. I think we’re stronger as a couple for it (most days, anyway). But I’m ready for our next chapter too.
I was so sure Jason passed the bar he took in February. He was not. He came so disgustingly close, but he did not pass. He only gave himself six weeks to prepare, and it wasn’t enough time. We received the results the day after our wedding anniversary.
A week before we received the results, Jason started working as an associate at a law firm. When he first started working in the legal field as a paralegal, he knew several attorneys who were working as law clerks, awaiting their results. But the Florida Bar gets harder and harder (I am told, obvs I have no idea), and more firms won’t take you on until you pass, because there’s a good chance you may not pass the first time anymore – so the fact that he found a firm to hire him, was exciting to us both.
A week after we got the results, Jason’s car died. I flipped out, you guys. I am not proud of it, but a lot of secure things let me down in a week’s time.
Jason was like, “what can you do?” and I’m hyperventilating that our life is on hold once again. He didn’t want to get a new car – he knew he’d have to stop working again and could study from home, and we could share a car. I did not think that was a great idea, so you can imagine the arguments we had. We have been sharing a car since April, and initially I wanted to pull my hair out, but it hasn’t been as bad as I thought.
Jason refused to quit working until the absolute last moment he could. I was so so angry at him. I am beyond ready for whatever the next chapter is; fixing our house, trying for a baby, quitting my corporate job to blog full-time. Put any of those options in a hat, and I’ll pick just one and be happy. I was/am just so ready for the next step in our life together.
But Jason’s determination paid off, and the firm respected his work ethic, and want him back after he takes the exam, while we wait for the results…again.
In the end, it all works out I think. I know this most of the time, but when you’re in the thick of it, it’s sometimes really hard to see it.
I could have never imagined ten years ago, our life would lead us here. No relationship is perfect – I know that. We’ve gone through some things, and our communication could always be better. But I can’t imagine trying to go through this life and anything that has been thrown our way (helping raise a nephew sometimes, law school, me working two full-time jobs, etc.) with anyone else. Seriously, the good outweighs the bad, and we laugh more than we fight, and even on the days where I want to throw something at my husband, I never want to try and do life with another person.